Blog Post – Love, Hope, Support, & Life

Patience Ruffin

What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived.
It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will
determine the significance of the life we lead.
— Nelson Mandela

“There is an island of opportunity in the middle of every difficulty.”
― Alcoholics Anonymous

Daily the staff at TND walk through the door with one goal in mind, and that is to fight the disease of addiction. We come into the building with the agenda to help a woman not be defined by her past and to develop hope for her future.

By no means is this an easy task, but we have taken on the assignment to combat addiction and help reunite families. In the midst of that, sometimes the disease is too strong and women lose their fight. This was the case for the agency this month. We lost someone very close to us to the disease of addiction. Her untimely death became a time of sadness, reflection, and celebration for the employees at TND.

While we were hurt by the loss of her, we celebrated the beautiful life she lived. We also used this as a time to reflect on the work we do and how important it is to treat every moment with the clients as if it is the last. What I recall the most about this difficult time was how we as an agency embraced, supported, and encouraged one another. In the midst of our own mourning, each of us found a way to comfort one another.

Her beautiful life helped us lean on the strength of those we stand alongside of to fight the disease. I learned that though the disease of addiction is horrible and in some instances fatal, The Next Door is a place of love, hope, support, and life for those who are impacted daily.

Patience Ruffin serves as The Next Door’s Director of Treatment Services

1 reply
  1. Angela Easterling
    Angela Easterling says:

    What a beautifully written post.

    The quote from the Big Book has proven to be so true for many of the women we’ve worked with.
    “There is an island of opportunity in the middle of every difficulty.”

    When she perseveres through these painful experiences, she becomes wiser with more self knowledge and, eventually, realizes she is much stronger than she ever believed.
    She will use the experiences to grow and change. They show her what she wants and doesn’t want. They make her humble and show her how to feel again.
    She becomes grateful for what she has, no matter how little it may be.
    Day by day, she opens up a little more to the Sunlight of the Spirit – reaching out, helping others and chipping away at the new woman who is being constructed. Many hands will be involved in this process. For some women, it takes multiple attempts before they are willing enough to take the actions required to experience a spiritual awakening which brings a profound alteration in ones reaction to life.

    Everyday, I am astounded by the courage, strength, and humility that recovering women exhibit as they “trudge the road of happy destiny.” By no means is this an easy journey.
    Supporting these women on their lifelong adventure is a privilege and an honor.

    Angela E.


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